Last fall I wrote a post about some crazy trends happening in fashion, about how unrealistic, unwearable, and downright silly some of them are. To me at least. Remember the “duvet coat?” Ha.
And I loved the comment on that post from “Catbird Farm” that she didn’t “want to wear clothes that [bossed her] around.” Yep. Me neither. I hate bossy outfits. Demanding my attention all day or evening. Whiny outfits that need to be fussed over constantly. I mean, let’s just all agree that our clothes are not the boss of us, okay? Or they shouldn’t be, anyway.
Which brings me to my point today. The half-tuck. You know, the trend that’s been around for a few seasons, of tucking part of one’s shirt or tee or sweater into one’s pants or skirt. I like the look on others, mostly. Some of my favourite bloggers have worn it very successfully. But I have to say that I’ve struggled with this trend.
I tried it here with my white linen, 3/4 sleeve tee from Nordstrom Collection which I bought last spring when I was looking for tops to go with my striped A.L.C. skirt. This is how Liz and I styled the top in the dressing room when I bought it. And this is how I wore it out to tea with a friend a few weeks ago. Except I wore my Paul Green black suede, lace-up flats instead of my sneakers. I like this outfit. In the picture, at least. Standing still, posing for my camera.
|I like this outfit. It’s just too darned bossy.
But in real life. Not so much. You know… real life… where I have to move around and stuff? Like driving in my car, twisting to fasten my seatbelt, or to see behind me when I’m parallel parking, even getting out of the car. Then sitting down in the restaurant, stretching my arms up to pull my cross-body bag over my head, reaching to put my bag on a nearby chair, or simply getting up from the table. All movements that result in the half-tuck moving around, becoming untucked. And requiring fussing. Because it’s not a matter of just tucking in the front. No… it has to be positioned just so. Slightly off centre, the tee slightly bloused over the waist of my skirt. So it looks nonchalant, like I just tucked it in any old way, when of course I didn’t. Akkkk. That half-tuck drove me crazy.
And since I’m a slow learner, in many ways. I tried the half-tuck again the other day. With my new Frame navy and white striped tee and my old Burberry denim skirt. I even added a funky green belt. Sigh. It looked silly. Too contrived, I thought. And destroyed the shape of the Frame tee shirt. Plus the fact that I knew the tee would not stay tucked. Not once I sat in the car, and twisted to fasten my seatbelt and…. well… you get the point. So I untucked it again and felt much better. More like myself.
Fussing and fighting with my half-tuck.
And then, before I left the house, I tried my white linen tee untucked with my denim skirt, below. Now isn’t that much better? Tucking this shirt spoils the lovely, schlubby, linen-knit shape. And when it’s tucked you can’t see how it hangs loose, but is still narrow. How the back is longer than the front, and the wide hem at the bottom is slit at the sides, so it floats freely and doesn’t cling. Okay, so maybe this outfit isn’t the latest of the latest in 2017 trends. And white and navy may be a bit boring. But I love it and feel perfectly comfortable. Not fussy. And not bossed around by my clothes. Add a pair of colourful, funky earrings and a cute cross-body bag or a tote and this would be a great run-around outfit.
|That’s much better.
And now that I think of it. All my favourite looks this season are untucked. A narrow untucked sweater or tee is the most flattering on my apple shape… since I carry most of my weight above the hips. And a top worn out over my pants or skirt balances off my short upper body with my much longer lower half. Not to mention smoothing out bumps and protrusions that have developed over the years. And… and… this part is important… an untucked top is soooo easy. Unfussy. Doesn’t demand adjustment every five minutes. And doesn’t boss me around.
My two favourite outfits this season. Both untucked.
And, you see, here’s my point. I expend a lot of time and effort choosing the pieces I will purchase to add to my wardrobe. As you know if you visit here regularly, I do my “research” every season. I edit out of my closet pieces that no longer work on my body, or that no longer suit my lifestyle. I make my lists and shop carefully. I make the occasional mistake; can you say Eileen Fisher tunic? But mostly I end up with pieces that I will wear for years, and which I am confident look good on me.
Fashion has always been important to me. But it’s not my whole life. And once I’ve invested my time and my money into a piece, I expect it to do the rest of the work, so to speak. I’ll spend a bit more time putting together outfits, but afterward I want to be able to trust that my work is done. I don’t want to fuss or fiddle with my clothes. I want them to look good on me. And do what they’re told.
Because, in the end, I am the only boss of me. Not my husband. Not my mum… at least not anymore. Not my former boss… now that I’m retired. And certainly not my clothes.
|I am the boss of me.
And really, why should I care that I’m not wearing every trend that rears its head every season? That doesn’t reflect my fashion ethic at all.
Okay, I’m done ranting. I guess that the half-tuck is one of those trends that I’ll take a pass on. Now, don’t get me started on the off the shoulder thing.
How about you, my fashionable friends… are you a half-tuck person? Let’s hear what trends you have taken a pass on. Or outfits that you abandoned because they became too darned bossy.